I know the geography in video games better than my own country.
tell me your fears about us
1. I’ve been working a minimum wage job since late February. It is now September and my savings account has $2000. I’m really proud of my dedication to limiting my spending.
2. My back still hurts a lot. When I’m working, I feel like giving up all the time. I still often wonder how I’m going to get through the next hour or two.
3. I’m grateful for anyone who’s ever helped me. Just because I hate you now or I no longer consider you a friend, it doesn’t mean I’m ungrateful.
4. A lot of you can go fuck yourselves.
5. Karen acknowledges that the view of me as a bad guy in the context of our relationship, in regards to other people’s views and opinions of us, is a misconstrued one. She says it frustrates her to talk to anyone about us because she knows how unfair those opinions are.
I love her for that.
6. I have plenty of selfish moments but I do not believe I am selfish.
7. San Diego FGC really encourages and acknowledges growth. That makes it easier for me and Karen to come out more. Hell, we’d make it out to every event if it weren’t for gas, school, and work.
8. School and work is hard to balance.
9. I’m proud of myself for getting back into school in the first place. I’m losing 10-15 hours of work (and subsequently, money) because of it and lots of students are under-appreciated, but fuck it. I know I don’t have a lot of job security, and with my back problems, the whole situation is complicated. Better to work part-time, get some of my hard work paid for and simultaneously work toward a degree (I hope). I’m not getting as much help a lot of other people are but I have to play the cards I’m dealt.
10. Shoto Dojo no longer being a weekly thing helps me balance out other parts of my life. If someone else could host, that’d help me out greatly. That way I could just attend for one or two hours and get out.
11. My body’s been aching everywhere. I haven’t been training in jiu-jitsu because of it.
12. I lose a lot of time laying around for hours because I’m depressed I’d handle the time constraints of work, class, homework, and training a lot better if I weren’t so fucking out of my mind depressed.
13. Fuck all the bs. Gotta press forward, regardless.
14. One of the SD FGC guys, Lacey, acknowledged my hunger. I know the opinions of others shouldn’t really affect me but when someone else acknowledges my drive and motivation, it makes me feel like I’m doing something right.
15. Karen took a long break from Street Fighter. She would play, but not really, and that’s because she was frustrated with a lot of things. Now she’s playing more consistently, and as a result, she’s gotten a lot better. She DP FADC U1’ed me at the Salt Mines the other day. She beat me 5-3 in a FT5 Ryu mirror match earlier this week. She puts on a good display of fundamentals against other seasoned players. Just like me, she has a lot of growing to do. But when you take into account all of these other guys have been playing 5+ years, having someone like her to practice and grow with makes playing this damned game a lot easier to deal with.
16. I’m going to start going into TTF and Salt Mines tournaments under the SD clan tag to rep the Shoto Dojo. I might 0-2 for a while but I’m still going to rep where I got my start.
Cristopher Gibson - “Alonzo”
if we’re in a mutual follow feel free to fucking kill me
I read you not only because of the ways that you and I are similar, but because of the ways that we are different. You may be seeing the world through the monocle of a misanthropist, the vision of a cynic, the canvas of a nihilist, or the pen of the doomsayer. I read you not…
My college counselor told me that if my name was Jose or Carlos instead of Brandon then my application wouldn’t be as strong. I understand but it’s so fucked
No, but seriously: She messaged me out of the blue months after the fact about my commentary on her post (was she just incessantly combing through the responses that long afterwards?), trying to convince me that her handful of experiences on the world’s most notorious subway justify her intentionally making other people on the subway feel uncomfortable, and then she tries to make it seem like I’m the one that just brought it up out of nowhere.
I’ve begun silently fighting back against jerks on the subway who sit as spread out as possible. Basically I match your stance.
This guy was sitting on the train with his knees splayed and his hands on the seat to either side of him. So I slowly backed up into the seat next to him forcing him to either move his hand or have me sit on it. Then I spread my knees equally wide and stuck my elbows out just as far.
It’s amazing how uncomfortable this makes men.
Eventually he closed his knees more (so I closed mine.) The ladies across from me noticed this silent warfare and were slightly confused. When he finally got off the train and I sat like a “lady” they realized what I did and grinned at me.
Yep. This is my new thing to do on the subway.
ur a little rebel i like u
You know why most guys sit like that?
It’s a body language signal known as a “crotch display” and it’s used to show dominance/confidence.
This is why guys get uncomfortable when women do this, and also why women are told to sit “like a lady” - basically, without the crotch display. When women do it, they’re telling all the dudes that they’re either stronger or on equal standing with them.
So I say right on, ladies! Go for it.
…I want to believe that this is a joke, but then the sad reality hits that you actually believe this. I would love to know where the study came from that proves this alleged “language signal”, because this is literally the most pathetic piece of straw feminism I have ever heard.
Let us try a little experiment, shall we? Try this while sitting at your desks at home:
Use your leg muscles to hold your legs close together.
Now, completely relax your legs. Where do they go? The knees pointed outward, didn’t they? The distribution of muscle in your legs will always cause the knees to separate when relaxed, as the muscle tension is released, and the skin and muscle flattens under its own weight.
Secondly, I’m not sure if you’re aware of this, but men have these things called “testicles”. They are located between the legs, and, from what I’ve heard, as well as seen countless times over on programs such as America’s Funniest Home Videos, they are fairly sensitive pieces of equipment.
Now, do you know what I find uncomfortable? Trying to lie on my stomach. Do you know why? Because I have these two, large, skin-enclosed sacks of fatty tissue and mammary glands, or, to put it in layman’s terms, “breasts”. Lying on my stomach is an uncomfortable position for me, as it puts the pressure of the weight of my body onto my breasts, and compresses them to a point that it causes me discomfort.
Now, imagine, if you will, if your breasts were located between your legs. How, exactly, do you imagine you would sit, in order to avoid causing yourself discomfort?
As for the idea of this “sitting like a lady”, I’m beginning to believe that you literally know nothing of common etiquette other than what other people tell you to be opposed to. If one were to look at any number of portraits - photographed, drawn, or painted - from the Victorian era, for example, you would find the majority of the men depicted therein to be seated with their legs crossed.
It was proper etiquette, for men and women alike, to keep one’s legs closed, so as not to look “slovenly”. Let us also not forget that, in humanity’s ever-prevalent aspirations towards “perfection”, we have all put ourselves in various stages of discomfort, in order to attain some visage of looking “proper”, or “at our best”. You cannot cherry pick pieces of etiquette while simultaneously disregarding the same rules that also applied to the men of the era, where such guidelines were most prevalent.
As for the original poster, would you like to know exactly why you’re really making these men uncomfortable? Because you are deliberately invading their personal space. You will find this reaction common among all human beings, regardless of gender identity, or any other distinguishing factors. Were you to do this to me, or any other women, you would be met with the exact same reaction. Now, while it may be true that many years of cultural growth has inadvertently made it more common for men to sit with their legs in a relaxed state, that does not, in any way, signal some kind of secret, animalistic “language” of masculinity.
From here on, I’d strongly advise you to act with the common courtesy deserving of all human beings, and not behave like a child the next time you utilize public transportation. It is not the men being “rude” by trying to be seated comfortably. It is you being rude by insinuating yourself into the comfort zone of another. It is an unwanted gesture that I have no doubt that you would find just as “violating” as your own conduct towards these innocent strangers who are just trying to make it to their destinations in peace.
Not gonna lie, I sit with my legs spread out(ima guy) but not to display dominance or anything of the sort, it’s just more comfortable imo. When I set with my knees together it feels tense and blehh.
Out of respect for others, in public benches/trains/buses, I sit legs closed. I don’t think there’s any need for a silent warfare as I’m sure most people would make room if asked [: if they don’t, well.. let the games begin ;]